13 kinds of egos avoid，if you want to be successful. 【Cost: 2hr】

A lot of people they struggle financially, and they think to themselves, “Oh, you know what, I can’t become rich because I don’t have enough money or I don’t have enough capital, I don’t have the right idea, or I’m not in the right industry, or I don’t have the right connections.” In fact, that’s not what holds most people back, what holds most people back is this one thing: EGO. Yeap, that’s right, ego. Now you may be thinking, “No, I don’t have any ego. What are you talking about? I’m just struggling finacially, I don’t have money.”, No, that’s not true. You see, ego comes in many disguises. Today, I’m gonna share with you 13 of them where I learned from some books I recently read, and you can see if you recognize any one of them. Number 1: The blame ego. You see, lame people blame people. Their blame ego says, “Well, it’s not my fault, it’s the governments fault, it’s the economy, it’s the industry, it’s my co-workers, it’s my parents, or I come from a dystunctional family, and that’s why I will never become rich, or because my supervisor, he is holding me back, and that’s why I could never become successful.”, See? the blame ego always says it’s someone elses fault. They always pointing fingers, and remember, when you’re pointing finger to someone else, one finger pointing out, guess what, three fingers pointing back. Do you have this ego? Do you blame other people? Do you make excuses? Then maybe the one that’s holding you back. Number 2: The know-it-all ego. When I was young, I thought I know it all. I don’t need to read books, I know what I’m doing, I was being a technical director, I was starting lots of indie game project and guess what? None of them work. Because I thought I knew what I was talking about, but in fact, I didn’t know sh*t, okay? See, the know-it-all always thinking they know everything, keep doing the same thing again and again, and expect a different result. That’s the very definition of “Insanity”. This is the know-it-all ego. Number 3: The fearful ego. You see, what holds a lot of people back is fear. Fear of success, fear of failture, fear of making a mistake. Think about it, before you do something, you’re saying to yourself, “Well what if it doesn’t work?” or “What if I lose money?” and “What if I make a mistake? what if I don’t know what to do? What if I can’t figure this out?” The what if, what if, what if … what if it does work? You see, always remember, “FEAR” is an acronym, it stand for “F”alse “E”vidence “A”ppearing “R”eal, it’s nothing more than a made up story in your own mind. So, do you have the fearful ego holding you back? Number 4: The comfort zone ego. It says “I’m confortable. I’m happy where I am, I’m content. Thing are find, you know, I don’t need to be that ambitious.” Well, that’s the problem. Your income zone is your comfort zone, your comfort zone is your income zone. When you get complacent, when you get comfortable, you’re not growing. Remember, when you’re not growing, you are dying. So do you have this ego that is holding you back right now? And what are you gonna do about it? Number 5: The judgemental ego. I want you to image this: you are walking down the street, and suddenly you hear vroom-vroom, and then you see a red Ferrari just drove by. What’s the first thought that comes through your mind? No filter, no edit, what’s the very first thought that comes to your mind? My guesss is chances are “He’s a asshole. Who does he think he is? So cocky, so selfish, probably a greed bastard. Actually you know what, probably not his money anyway, it’s his daddy’s money.” Or if it’s a lady, a woman, “Oh, that’s a gold digger, right?” All these negativities that’s you judging other people. My question to you is how do you know? How do you know? It’s all made up stories in your mind, right? And you say, “Oh, he’s not that good. She is not that pretty. He is not that smart.” You’re judging other people, you are projecting your own insecurities, your own values onto other people. How do you know that man is not a hard working man? How do you know he’s not a good husband? How do you know he’s someone who has worked 20 or 30 years to get to where he is at this point? How do you know? You judge, you come to your own conslusions, before even talking to the person. You see how your mind works. How are you gonna be successful, how are you ever become rich if that’s the image that you have for people who are successful? Number 6: The excuses ego. You can make money or you can make excuses, but you can not do both. An excuse is nothing more than a well planned LIE. You see, the excuses ego says, “Well, I can’t afford it, I don’t have money. That’s too far.” or “That’s too diffcult, I don’t have enough experience.” It always I can’t, I can’t or I don’t know how. You could have a millon excuses why you can not do something, in fact you only need one damn good reason why you must do it. Number 7: The people pleasing ego. “Well, I just wanna make sure everybody is happy, everybody is okay. Yeah, I know, but I don’t wanna rock the boat, as long as everybody’s okay, the I’ll be okay.” You try to please people too much, you always put other people first. Nothing wrong with that, but sometimes in life, you have to put yourself first. Even when you’re flying on an airplane, you gotta put on your own oxygen mask first, before you help someone else. Sometimes in life, you have to put yourself first, you have to be a little selfish, so you can be generous. You always put your family first, you always put other people first, my question to you is what about you? And you might think you’re so selfless. No, you’re being selfish. That’s people pleasing ego in play. Number 8: The justification ego. You justify why you don’t do something. You justify why you can’t do it. “You know, I am too young. I am too old. I am an immigrant. I speak with an accent. I don’t have enough experience. You know what, it’s too late, I’m married. I have kids. I sacrifice for my kids.” That is a LIE. You justify your failtures, don’t use your kids as an excuse. Use them as fuel, as your motivation, why you must do something, not why you can’t do something. STOP justifying. Number 9: The jealous ego. Have you ever said stuff like this, “Oh, rich people are greedy, they are selfish. Oh, you know what, it’s not that big of deal anyway.” It’s jealousy. Don’t criticize what you have not done, or what you’re not capable to do. Don’t judge. Sometimes I even seen it on Youtube commits, people judging this and judging that, I don’t really give a damn, how about you go do it? You upload a video, you build a channel, right? You go impact millions peoples lives. Until you’ve done it, don’t let this jealous ego hold you back. Number 19: The fake ego. Have you ever met someone that you don’t know them, but the minute you meet with them, they just have this weird kind of vibe that you don’t trust hom or her? Or they feel very fake, that you feel like “Oh, my gosh, they are just so fake, they are so superficial.” That you don’t make that connection, thet they’re not genuine. Or, have you ever met someone that just the minute you meet with them, you make that instant connection, and then there’s that trust, there’s that bond? That you feel this person is sincere. The fake ego, maybe that’s you, maybe that you’re very good at putting on this mask. You are very good that in one circumstance, you can be this person; and in other scenario you become a different person’ and then here you become another person. And before you know it, you’ve done it for so many years, you don’t know who you are anymore, you don’t know which one is the real you. You’ve lost yourself. Be yourself, everyone else is taken, be yourself. I would rather people hate me for who I am, than love me for who I am not. So, don’t, don’t use the fake ego. You don’t need it to be succcessful. Number 11, that is the shy ego. The shy ego says “Well ummmm, I’m just shy. I am just an introvert. I am not good with people. And I’m just fine, it’s okay. I don’t like to talk, I’ll just be like that.” But you use that as an excuse, you use that to stay in your own bubble, you use that to stay in your own shell. When I was first time working aboard, I didn’t want to talk to people, because I could’t speak the language, I was so afraid. Even now when I go to meet a lot of people new, I still have a little bit of awkwardness, it’s normal. But I shouldn’t let that hold me back, I know that if I want to be more successful, if I want to travel around the world, I have to get outside of my confort zone. I have to overcome my shyness. That’s how I can do what I do. So don’t use that your personality as an excuse to hold you back. Number 12, The other people’s opinions ego. Be honest, do you worry a lot what people think of you? Do you worried how people perceive you? You know you wanna do something, but “Oh, what will people think of that? What will people think of my action?” Even deep down you know that’s the right thing to do, but you don’t do it beacuase you have other people’s opinions ego. You let other people’s opinions stop you from doing what you know is the right thing. Those people, they could be your family, they could be your relatives, they could be your friends, it doesn’t matter. It can be social media, you’re uploading a video, you’re posting to social media, you’re makeing noise, you’re getting attention, suddenly you get a few haters, you stop. People who don’t care about you, haters and trolls who add no value in your life, and some keyboard warrior, some losers post a comment and you’re like “Oh, I guess that hurts my feeling.” And you stop doing what is right. You stop doing what is gonna make you successful. Stop worrying about other people’s opinions, it’s just their opinions, it’s just doesn’t matter. Haters just gonna hate, it doesn’t matter, you do what you know is right. Number 13, is the do it yourself ego. Yes, the do-it-yourself ego says this, “If you want something done, you gotta do it yourself. Well, they will never do it as good as the way that I do it.” or “I don’t trust him.”. What you’re really saying is “I don’t trust other people.”. That is ego, that is a form of ego that holds you back. Because nothing great is accomplished just with one person. It requires other people, it requires team work. So, the do-it-yourself ego, this is probably one of the most common egos that hold most entrepreneurs back. That’s holding them back from going to the next level, because they are control freaks. So, how many of these egos do you have out of the 13? The 13 egos that are preventing most people from becoming successful. Now, if you say I got none of them, not one, that is probably the biggest ego that I have ever seen, because I had a lot of these, I still have to work through them myself. For better yourself!